About us

We wanted a kid. There was the briefest exploration in to fertility assistance but that seemed most likely to result in pregnancy and one of us didn’t want to be pregnant. Then, we said we would only adopt internationally. It took almost two years to come to the reality we couldn’t afford that.

We than decided to enter the world of State adoption. We said we only wanted a child who had been terminated legally from their biological parents so we would never have to deal with the uncertainty of losing the kid. In State parlance it is called TPR (termination of parental rights).  And – finally, we didn’t want a child with a disability.

We ended up with a two-year-old boy with Down syndrome who was not TPR’d at the time we brought him home.

Clearly, we knew nothing about anything.

My intention in writing about our son and our lives is to echo the words of Walt Whitman that our son– and the rest of the world– lives every moment –

I exist as I am, that is enough.

I can be reached: atypicalson@gmail.com

44 thoughts on “About us

  1. Hello!
    I’m a book publicist working on a new published memoir about raising a child with Downs. I would love to send you an advance copy of the book! If you’re interested, would you be able to EMAIL me?

    Many thanks. :)
    Laura

  2. Thank you.

    As a parent of three month old twins, one of which has DS, I want to thank you.
    I’m just starting out on this road and I have a lot to learn. I’ve been blogging for years, so naturally I headed to the blogosphere to see what other DS parents are out there.

    There is a lot of crap out there.

    Thank you for your candor, your honesty and for being coherent and well written. We too are not a typical family. This is life, and if you pardon the cliche, it is what it is.

    I look forward to reading more of you and your wonderful son.

    • First, congrats on your twins! You are right “it is what it is”. What if that was the secret to life? Thanks for the comment – it means a lot. I am so happy for you.

  3. What lovely thoughts! I am an author and the proud father of a 38-year-old daughter with Down syndrome. I have written a novel in ebook form, A SPY AT HOME, which is available on Amazon. In this book I have a central character, Noah, who has Down and is adopted. I would like to invite you to read this ebook, and I would be very interested in your thoughts about the story. I can be reached directly at rinald47@gmail.com.
    Thank you for your blog and for sharing your child with Down syndrome.
    Joe Rinaldo

  4. Celia,

    Your program looks so great! Social relationships and meaningful work aren’t things you hear enough about people with special needs. If I could get to UCLA I would go! KWP

  5. Hi notatypicalmom!

    It’s actually online, livestreamed on our facebook page. Totally free, and all you do is register on http://uclaexlivechat.eventbrite.com/ then go to our facebook Livestream page to “check in” and chat https://www.facebook.com/#!/UCLAExtension?sk=app_142371818162.

    Also, the program encourages students to live away from home and their parents with other students in their class so they can live more independently and develop the crucial social skills they might miss out on at home.

    You can submit any questions you might have in advance to livechat@uclaextension.edu, and we will be sure to answer them ! I hope you can join Nov. 16th at 2 p.m. PST.

    Thanks!
    Celia

  6. HI, new to your blog. I commented once or twice. I was wondering if you could share a few of your goals on your IEP to get your son in gen ed, my son will be in kindergarden in the fall and we are being pushed and manipulated by the draft IEP goals to the self contained classroom. Did I read some where you are in Oregon, which is where I am. Thanks, or you could private email me or what ever works… or doesn’t liztree@yahoo.com
    Liz Tree

  7. Love your blog, and love your directness, humor and insight into living with a superhero! Our “superhero in training” is almost 3 (early indications are that his superpower is freestyle dancing :) His pure joy reminds us daily to forget the nonsense and just DANCE! Life if good!

  8. Our genetic counselor, emailed me your article, on how to tell your son that he has Down’s Syndrome. We just got news that our daughter has a different syndrome, and have been struggling on how and when to share it with our kids, and family. This was the best article I could have read! It was perfect, and fit my house just the same! Thank you for your honest writing, and sharing your story.

    • Lisa,

      You really made my day maybe my week and year. My intention with writing about my family has always been to hopefully offer something that is helpful. We are all in this together and in many respects we are the experts. Please pass on my gratitude to your counselor if you like. I appreciate you taking time out to comment. Best, kwp

  9. What a beautiful son! I found your blog via linking from Twitter. I love your “warning: this mom swears” badge. May I post it on my blog, too?

    • Thanks, he is pretty adorable. I am glad you like the badge. It is actually associated with me so I don’t want you to use it. I bet you can come up with something for yourself:)

      • These are my words, thoughts and ideas strung together. © atypicalson 2009-2013. All Rights Reserved.

        You probably didn’t see this!

      • Dangit, that blows my dream vision of your badge winnowing out all the mom blogs worth checking out. :-) Anyway, thanks for your lovely writing and contributions to the world.

  10. It’s amazing to hear other peoples stories on this typic, I have also adopted a child with Down syndrome, my daughter has tought me so much over the past 4 years this year, her determination, strength, non judgemental and unconditional love she shows to all around her, blows my mind….I’m so lucky to have her in my life….,
    ANGELS ARE MADE WITH 47 PIECES……

  11. I read your post about adopting a child with down syndrome and it moved me. I have a nephew with down syndrome and he is the most wonderful little boy. You’re right they are not”less than” they are perfect just how they are. Most people only see the challenge of having a child with special needs, they don’t see the reward, the very same reward that every parent has, a beautiful child that loves them.

  12. Through the “powers” of the internet I just read your article on CNN iReport. I was nodding and affirming everything you said. Ours was an international adoption (and therefore we were spared the period of worry that she could be taken away) and in many ways our experience ran parallel to yours. Thank you for sharing.

  13. Deeply saddened by the passing of your dear, sweet Walt. A touching story. Could I recommend a book? Cynthia Rylant’s “Dog Heaven”. My sister gave me this when I had to have my Labrador put down the day after his twelfth birthday due to cancer. She affixed a beautiful dogwood bloom in the front cover. I too am not religious, but spiritual. “God” looks like an Argentinian gaucho in Dog Heaven. It’s a children’s book, but gives me no end of comfort as I miss my best friend. And I am almost 50. Perhaps Thorin will find some small comfort.

  14. I loved hearing your story. My daughter has DS and our story is a lot like yours. I fostered her knowing I wanted to adopt. I got her when she was seven months old; she’s five now. I’m a single parent so it’s just the two of us. So many people were negative when they learned about my choice. They forget it’s the happiest time in the world for you.

    • I’m sorry I missed your comment! Yes — people forget it’s the happiest time in the world for you! I’m freaking thrilled for both of you! I would love to hear more:) best, Kwp

  15. Kari, Just finished your amazing book! As a teaching assistant working with children with ds, I found it to be both informative and spot on. I learn so much from my students! Thank you! Linda

    • Linda,

      Hello! I don’t know why I didn’t see your comment until now! Thank you! It means a lot. Would you consider sharing your comment as a Amazon and or Good Reads review? It really helps!

        Kwp

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