Let’s Get It On –

Because there has been such a clamoring for my promised post on cock-blocking here it is.  (I think two of you may have requested the post.) RavelBolero

Who is a more effective cock blocker – children or dogs? The answer is – ding, ding, ding, ding – ‘a visiting grandmother’.

Mostly because she possesses characteristics that allow her domination over both children and dogs in this arena: She is over three feet tall; she has opposable thumbs; and, she is hard of hearing. An additional motivator to consider it is her daughter that is being defiled which might give her an edge in unconsciously trying to interrupt a sexual encounter.

The barrier between ‘us’ and ‘all of them’ are a gate and a closed door and the fact we have to wait until they go to sleep.

Fortunately when my mom rouses during the night to go to the bathroom she isn’t wearing her glasses. Thus a great deal of bumping into things and loud muttering, “Judas Priest!” Meaning we can hear her coming. Warning of an intruder is key in these situations.

If like most nights – when she is not staying over – the winner would be our kid. This is due solely to the fact if one or both of the dogs break through the barricade(s) we can say, “No way in Hell!” And – put them back in the other room and ignore any whining.

A kid you have to take him back to his room and he has to fall asleep. So, there’s going to the bathroom, another book and a request for water – which is a total ruse. (How do all kids know about asking for water? It’s like they have a handbook.) Then you have lie down and pretend you are sleeping and then you actually fall asleep – in his room.

I understand the reproductive mechanics that results in one child. I do not know how anyone has the opportunity to be impregnated a second time. Growing up the Black family (that was their name not their race) lived across the street from us. They were Catholic and had eight children. Looking back  I think did they slip into the pantry every eighteen months for 90 seconds – for sheer procreation reasons? For duty, honor and country?

If Ward and I “give each other the eye” at some point during the day Thorin knows we are up to something. He does not know we want to ‘do it’. My guess he probably thinks things like, “They are going to eat ice cream without me!” or “They are going to watch ‘The Avengers’ for the 100th time without me!”

If I give Ward a passionate kiss vs. a peck on the lips, his immediate response is usually, “If you are serious. Keep your hands to yourself. He’s on to you!”

I look back to my early days with Ward. To the days we counted how many times a day we had sex. To the days we saw erotic possibilities rather than a kitchen table. To having sex in daylight hours.

I guess if I weigh those days against these days I am still ahead of the game.

Happy Mother’s day to all you Mothers! And a little Marvin Gaye for you and yours.

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About Kari Wagner-Peck

Kari Wagner-Peck lives with her husband and son in Maine. She is a writer & storyteller who home schools with her son. She has a M.S.W. and has been at various times a practicing social worker, documentary videographer, film festival director and retail clerk. She is the author of Not Always Happy: An Unusual Parenting Journey, May, 2017, Central Recovery Press. She has been published at The New York Times Well Family blog, The Huffington Post, The The Good Men Project, The Sydney Morning Herald Daily Life blog, BLOOM and Love That Max among others. Author page: kariwagnerpeck.com Twitter @KariWagnerPeck and Facebook: www.facebook.com/NotAlwaysHappyLive/ Email: kariwagnerpeck@gmail.com

3 thoughts on “Let’s Get It On –

  1. Once again, great article,Kari. I have always contended that the reason my daughter is an only child is due to the reasons you stated so explicitly in this article. Right on! Who can have a second baby when the first one refuses to sleep through the night? Poor Ashleigh now gets it as her 6 month old baby (Gus) also refuses to sleep through the night. They are wondering when Zu Zu (me) will keep the little angel here at my place overnight so they can “get some sleep” (wink wink)…I told them once he sleeps through the night I will gladly host him here overnight. I have a while to go before that happens, I suspect. As to my staying at their house–no thanks. I know there will be noise in the middle of the night from Gus’s room and I much prefer the quiet of my apartment. Happy Moms Day to you from WI–your old stomping ground.
    Thorin has the face of an angel. Susan

    • Hey you are my brother from another Mother! Thanks for the read! Happy Mother’s day to you, too! Heart WI.

  2. I admit to clamoring. Other than that, I have no idea what you’re talking about in this article. No idea whatsoever. None.

    Our babe cannot yet exit her crib unassisted.

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