Ward and I went to an IEP (Independent Education Plan) for Thorin this week.** A new goal for Thorin at his school is to decrease his antagonizing behaviors. I asked, “What are those behaviors?” The teacher said, “Well, he taps kids on the shoulder over and over again and also nudges them in the ribs with his elbow.” Without thinking I said, “Oh, I know where he learned that!” Thank god I had the presence of mind not to say – in front of the various professionals present – it was from me! He and I do that to each other all the time for laughs!
I told my sister and she said, “Kari! You have to stop doing that!” I said, “Can’t we keep doing it but when I do it I will say, “This means I like you” And, then maybe he will say that to the kid. That would build his verbal skills.” She said, “No, you can’t! The reason it’s antagonizing is the other kids don’t like it!” Kill joy.
I guess I have to tell the school. Ick. And, he and I have to stop doing that. Sad.
* formerly titled – “Reason 3,201 – Why I am a Bad Parent”. I changed it because I really think it’s a funny story and not a sad one.
**This story was the best part of what was otherwise a gut-wrenching meeting. IEPs really bite.