I had the occasion to talk with a mother who also has a child with Down syndrome about a few issues that applied to both our children.
A couple days later we ran into each other with our kids. She asked how old Thorin was. When I said five, she said, “She’s five, too.” Then she asked his birthday date and when I told her she said, “That’s her birthday.” She then asked what State he was born in? Same. City? Same. Hospital? Same.
Then she told me a story. A few hours before her daughter was born a boy was born at the hospital that also had Down syndrome. The boy’s mother was three doors down the hall from where this woman was. The hospital staff thought it was a great opportunity for the two moms to meet given this built-in bond. The little baby boy’s mother said yes to the meeting and then changed her mind.
My new acquaintance had really wanted to meet this other mom and the boy. She was sure it meant something these two beautiful babies were born within hours of each other at the same hospital. For five years she looked on the local Down syndrome parent’s webpage checking to see if a boy with that birthday had been entered.
I got chills. She got chills. The two women who overheard the conversation got chills. (One of those women did ask why I didn’t agree to meet then and I explained I wasn’t his mother then.)
Then she said again and a few times more, “I have been looking for him for five years.”
So, there is going to be a play date for these two beauties.
When I told my sister she said, “Oh, it makes me think they will be friends. It is like something out of a novel or a movie.”
I think it sounds like an independent film.
I don’t know why Thorin’s biological mother didn’t follow through with the meeting. Would they have become friends then – doubtful. Very doubtful. The important thing is they are getting a second chance to get to know each other.