Don’t Fence Me In –

Another well-meaning person suggested that maybe Thorin could be a bag boy when he gets older.  The variation on this is he could be a greeter at Wal-Mart.

These suggestions are based solely on the fact these well-meaning people saw a person with Down syndrome do this kind of work. Who cares if Thorin would like bagging groceries or greeting people.

A friend told me about a conversation he had with a neighbor who has Down syndrome. She had been offered a job as a greeter by an employment agency. Her response was something like, “Why would I want to be a greeter? I’m just not that good at pretending to be friendly with complete strangers.”

Imagine!  A person with Down syndrome who wasn’t a people person! It’s like a Kardasian who is too uptight to make a sex tape or eschews cosmetic surgery.

How easy is this employment placement lady’s job? Like, if a gay guy comes in does she ask if he wants to be a hairdresser? Are Italians steered toward waste management? Are immigrants encouraged to get a hack license?

Thorin loves making art, listening to music, dancing and watching movies. I wouldn’t be surprise if he did something artistic based on what he likes to do now. But, the reality is I don’t know now what Thorin will end up doing for work. My hope is only that it be what he wants.   

This entry was posted in Advocacy, By Notatypicalmom, Down syndrome, Inclusion, Parenting, Special Needs by Kari Wagner-Peck. Bookmark the permalink.

About Kari Wagner-Peck

Kari Wagner-Peck lives with her husband and son in Maine. She is a writer & storyteller who home schools with her son. She is the author of the memoir Not Always Happy: An Unusual Parenting Journey, May, 2017, Central Recovery Press. She has been published at CNN, Psychology Today online, The New York Times Well Family blog, The Huffington Post, The The Good Men Project, The Sydney Morning Herald Daily Life blog, BLOOM and Love That Max among others. Author page: Twitter @KariWagnerPeck and Facebook: Email:

2 thoughts on “Don’t Fence Me In –

    • Listen, it makes me want to say in response, “Gee, with your daughter’s dance moves she could be a stripper.”

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